Janet’s Planet of Intention Creating More Millionaires

One of my roles in my life the past 12+ years has been step-mom to two terrific young women.  I came into their lives when they were 15 and 10-1/2.  Their subconscious footprint had long been programmed.  My husband was a single dad who had to moonlight to make ends meet, so with an after school program and my husband’s quick dinner making skills, they pretty much fended for themselves much of the time since the oldest was 5 years of age; the youngest 6 months old, aside from a part-time nanny in the early years.  Well meaning friends and long-distance family pitched in as they could of course, so there was alot of encouragement for my husband, and for the girls.  Gifts for the girls and pats on the back were not earned and they came to be expected.  The best of intentions from family and friends were at times inspired by thoughts of feeling a bit sorry for the girls plight. 

My decade of influence on them was to show them how a traditional family works together as a team, and infused as much midwestern family traditions as I could as I had growning up.  Values, honesty, solid character, good study habits were all the things I worked on.  My step-daughters welcomed me but also kept me at bay, because I was so different, so much more serious about life than the casual attitudes toward life and school they had lived.  My husband encouraged me to share what I could.  I encouraged my husband to amend his weekly allowances to his girls to now be contingent on specific chores being completed regularly.  We were a team, and me constantly picking up after them wasn’t going to teach them anything.   It was then that I realized how entitled they felt.  They expected it all in return for nothing.   I read a multitude of Christian based family psychology books about blending families and treating all the children equally.  I did my best.  I worked from home many years so I was there before and after school to provide the structure and support.  I like to think they benefited all that I did in the long run, even though I came into their lives a little late. 

Now they are 27 and 23 years of age.  It is now that I can see the issues they struggle with are from their formative years.  Not accepting responsibility for their current circumstances and using a multitude of excuses about how they were brought up and what they didn’t have is holding them back.  Their natural mother was very ill and saw them on weekends when she could growing up.  They still have so much pain because their ‘real’ mom couldn’t be the mom that they always needed and wanted.  That pain still includes resentment toward me for being that super mom that doesn’t love them the way a ‘real’ mom could.   I have grown to love them, but it’s not the same as loving my own natural daughter, who is 19.  The love that is there between us certainly could have grown far deeper and been very different had I come into their lives at the start of their father’s single parenting stint of 9 years.  They so desparately needed a good mother’s love and nurturing, which they never received even before the divorce of their parents.  I gave of myself far more than I thought I was capable of and then some.  I loved them as I could. 

I wish I could transfer to them all the knowledge I’ve accumulated about personal development and working on one’s higher self, but I cannot.  They must dig out of where they are themselves.  It’s painful for them and painful for us watching them.  They’re to entrenched in old thought habits that they cannot see how ridiculous they appear at times.  There was a recent family reunion and one of them isolated herself from the crowd for most of one of the dinner gatherings only to then burst into tears gathering the intended attention from two closest aunts looking for a consoling shoulder to cry on and more.   This manipulative display of attention on behalf of the 23 year old was such an immature act, as though she were 7 or 8, it made me realize how much maturing this grown child still needed.  Preceeding this display for the past few years has been a constant whining to relatives about her plight and what’s wrong in her life, asking for a little financial assistance here and loan never to be repaid from this one or that because her life was out of control.  And then there was the scarey realization, after much discussion between the adult family members, aunts, uncles, my husband and I, “what if?” she doesn’t dig out of this and develop a stronger self-esteem and take responsibility for her own life and emotions.  Frankly, the family consensus is that we’re all tired of hearing about it, getting the calls, hearing of her calling others complaining about her circumstances.  Then there was the pat on the back from my in-laws that I and my husband had done enough, it was time to let go.  It wasn’t until the whole family was together for this reunion and we had that long talk together that I realized how my step-daughter was affecting everyone. 

Did her father, I, and/or relatives make some mistakes along the way?  Sure.  Well intended acts of love and caring didn’t develop self-esteem and a sense of being responsible for one’s self.  Doing too much backfires also.  But much of my step-daughter’s circumstances weren’t anyone’s fault.  Her mother didn’t become ill on purpose preventing her from being a nurturing mother.  Being a single parent is tough enough, especially when it’s a dad finding himself having to care for a 5 year old and 6 month old on his own and working days and part-time nights to make ends meet.  And me, well, some of my friends and a school counselor or two have commended me for accepting the responsibility I did.  Not alot of women would come into a marriage at that point especially with the circumstances what they were.  But I fell in love with a wonderful man.  We married for us, not for our children. 

So, I’m searching for a book or two that I can share with my step-daughter to help her realize that I or anyone else is not her problem.  Her life’s difficulties are not because I couldn’t treat her like she was my natural daughter, that she cannot be who she wants to be.  That the desparation of feeling like she has no control over changing her life, her attitudes, her job, her weight, her finances, is all really her own doing — that she is sabotaging herself with her self-defeating habits and thoughts.  And also that no one person, aside of herself, is responsible or at fault for her happiness.  The books I read are far beyond what she could comprehend to start out with, so if anyone out there has some suggestions please contact me.  I love her and I still want to help.

Just a couple days ago, I walked to the post office with a single letter to be mailed, instead of just having my postman pick it up. I’m glad I did. It was about a 3 mile round trip and of course the exercise was good. But there was something I experienced on the way back that inspired the title of this blog post that made taking the time to mail that letter more than worthwhile..

I was crossing a fairly busy intersection with traffic light. There was a group of kids who had just pressed the pedestrian walkway button and were waiting for the green light to cross. The group of about 8 kids, from middle school age to high school, were obviously having a good time amongst themselves while waiting.

It was the youngest that my eyes turned to when I heard the shrieks of joy coming from her. She was jumping up and down waiving her arms about and the others were watching her laughing enjoying watching her experience. She had just waived to the driver of a very large truck, motioning to him with her fist in the air pulling her fist down while bending her arm. The motion many of us as youth also mimicked of a truck driver pulling the cable inside the truck cab to blow the loud horn.

The truck driver eagerly responded to her blowing his horn several times to her delight as she continued to jump for joy. And as that was taking place I reveled in the simple joy of it all. Would most people have just continued walking through that intersection and not even noticed the young girl’s joy? If so it would have been because they just weren’t listening.

I own an iPod and had it with me but hadn’t used it during that walk. I walked, just listening to the sounds around me, cars, birds, the sounds of the baby in the stroller that had just pass me with the proud mom pushing. If I’d had my iPod playing with the plugs in my ears I would have missed sharing the joy of that little girl. It actually brought a great smile to my face and to my soul as I acknowledged how grateful I am for life in general and it’s simple joys.

Do you take time to listen to the sounds around you? Do you sit in silence to listen to your soul?

Many people experience an uncomfortable feeling when they sit in silence. They don’t know how to relax and just notice the monkey chatter that starts to play in their head, or the day dreams/nightmares that accompany being over-stimulated in our society from anxiety, too much negative media. So they mistakenly interpret this as needing to be doing something or with someone. They just didn’t sit long enough and relax enough.

It takes practice to focus on nothing and just relax and listen to your soul, listen to your breathing. Try meditation in some form daily even if it’s just sitting in silence for 15 minutes at the beginning of your day before writing your thoughts in a journal. There are many formal methods, Jappa is one that I use frequently, or just listening to meditative music to start with if you’re restless. It’s cleansing. It’s healing. For me, it brings to the surface answers to many personal and business issues for which I seek enlightenment. My creativity can flow unencumbered at these times. And I feel connected. Connected to God letting all that is good flow through me assisting me in appreciating every little simple joy.

So, stop and listen. Appreciate. Be aware. Watch and look for all that is good. Revel in it. Be grateful. And join me — HONK for Joy!

On Thursday, December 17th, Polaris Media Group (PMG) premiered it’s first documentary available in DVD for sale “Kids With Cameras!” Follow the progress, challenges and triumphs of a group of children with Autism and Asperger’s syndrome participating in a unique animation film camp. This warm, uplifting look at Autistic children who come alive expressing themselves in a week-long arts camp involving acting and filming. This is a great gift idea for families with Autistic and Asperger’s children and is also a great idea for non-profit organizations and support groups to use in a group setting or even as a fundraiser. To purchase your DVD “Kids With Cameras” before it becomes available to the public at $24.95, send an email to me at: janet@planet-prosperity.com

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Okay this blog subject matter will be a bit off from past themes, but I felt inspired after just having a few of my network marketing business local team members leave my home today after a casual training session.

One of our two cats “Os,” short for Ostentatious, greeted our first team members as they arrived. Os is usually very social, welcoming and warm to every visitor. Occasionally if you pet her in the wrong place too hard, she might nip at you. And more accurately, she’d rather you wait until she’s ready to be petted. However, her reaction to our first visitors was unusual. She wouldn’t stop sniffing David and made several attempts to bite him and actually did nip him a few times. This has never happened to this extent before, mind you. What was unusual was that Os didn’t give up — she kept after David sniffing all over him, very intrigued and curious, much more than I’ve seen in her 7 years greeting visitors to our home. It was as though she was saying that she wanted to be the one in control and decide whether or not to accept David’s presence and allow him the opportunity to pet her. Most people would have left Os alone after one nip, but David persisted in giving his attention to Os and wanting to win her over.

This scene playing out reminds me of how we measure up people we meet and whether we eventually decide to trust this new person. Now I’m not from the “Show Me” state but alot of people are wary today of consumer fraud and untrusting. So it’s even more important today in business and relationships to make sure that you are walking the talk, maybe under promising and over delivering, and certainly not the opposite. There are probably alot more people observing you than you’re aware. They’re waiting to see how ‘real’ you really are — if you are a person of integrity — if you mean what you say and say what you mean.

So, my dear friend and associate, David, I’m sorry to say that Os was more than likely un-trusting and wary of you because she needed more time getting to know you — because what she saw and thought you to be, was not what she smelled and your scent was telling her you were. I believe you hit the nail on the head — your pet dog’s scent was still all over you. Your scent was not what you appeared to be.

So just hang in here with me a little longer, please. Think about your career or your business. How do you appear or what do you appear to be to your associates and business prospects? What do you smell like? What do you sound like? Is what you’re saying and actually doing in conflict with each other. For that matter, are your goals versus your actions in conflict? Are you walking that talk?

Your body knows what is harmful to it and what is good. We use our senses sometimes unconsciously. Os, the cat, knew to be more cautious.

During our training session today we used a simple well-known kinesiology experiment seeing the body weaken under testing when a negative thought is acknowledged versus a positive one. The same result can be documented when a negative image is thought of versus a positive one. So, if our body weakens under negative energy patterns, what negative energy are you subjecting yourself to or continuing to participate in unconsciously? How about consciously, but you think it’s innocent enough that it won’t affect you? The definition of ‘Kinesis’ is an involuntary movement or reaction as a the result of an external stimulus, reflex.

Our experiment and science proves that the thoughts you think influence your results and what you experience, whether you’re conscious of it or not — so be careful what you think!

I love the fall season! Even though it’s still in the low 90’s where I live, I can feel the humidity changing and great news . . . we have a cool front coming this weekend! Growing up in the Midwest, the trees returning to their fall colors and pumpkins everywhere, colder weather, rain, all were my favorite time of the year, second to the breath of spring. But this fall season, many industries and career opportunities will not be returning to their former state despite indicators of recessionary recovery.

First, the good news. The last two quarters our personal retirement statements have reflected 10% increases for each quarter — a welcomed sign! The county just north of us only has four months of remaining inventory of single-family homes — those foreclosures are being bought up! And the average home price is up 4% over a year ago. All positive signs of changes in our economy. The returning of a prosperous economy will take time — maybe longer than we all anticipated.

But there’s something I believe that will not change back to what it once was. And that is the number of career openings with a guaranteed salary, full benefits and retirement package.

This fall season things look different. Many industries are changed forever by further regulation: financial, banking, mortgages, real estate — all to protect the consumer but make careers in those areas viable for only those passionate and willing to be tightly regulated with mandatory additional licensing, education, etc. And consumers are far less trusting making sales careers a bit more challenging.

Some industries and companies coming out of this recession are not willing to take the full brunt of responsibility for overhead of salaried positions with comprehensive benefits and retirement packages. The unemployed seeking a career change already know the competition for each position is greater than ever. But here’s the bottom line. Many compensation packages are very a-typical now. A company wants to know that you understand how they expect you to impact THEIR bottom line. You cannot take for granted that you will be able to leverage your time for a typical paycheck in the six figure income range. In fact, many companies want to establish an ‘on contract’ position to give you an opportunity to prove yourself and prove your impact to their bottom line. ‘On contract’ is turning out to include a wide variety of compensation models, some never seen before — hybrid if you will — commission only or much smaller base salaries tightly monitored toward quotas and performance measurements. So more than ever before — you are definitely not in control, no matter how hard you think you are working.

It is for this reason that I have focused on supplying personal development resources on my blog for those who want to be at the top of their game in that existing career or management position, or if you’re seeking a position. Especially in these times, MINDSET is more important than ever! For the small business owner wanting to position themselves creatively to be at the forefront of their markets coming out of this recession, mindset training is critical. It’s the ‘thinking out of the box,’ sure, but it’s more than that. It’s about erasing the affects of all the negative messages you are bombarded with daily, and making room for your subconscious to reveal to you the secrets that have been kept abated by the crazy rat race existence. I am truly over-simplifying what work is done in personal development and mindset training, because it is work. But if you are determined to make your first million dollars, or your next, proper mindset position will assure your rise to the top of your game.

So, this fall season, with industries and careers forever changed, it’s time to prepare for a new personal season of change — the time is now to change your mindset and become that to producer, become that entrepreneur and start that business you’ve been wanting. It’s time to reinvent yourself to become your greatest potential. If you want to achieve success and be at the head of the pack finally achieving the life success, and financial success you’ve always desired, then make a commitment to become your greatest potential by working on your self. Personally, as a student of personal development of 14 years I can only attest to what has worked for me and it’s the resources you’ll find on this blog. I welcome your comments — if you’ve been on a path to reinvent yourself, what techniques or products have you been using. Looking forward to hearing from you!

Earlier this year I read a book by Alan Seale, The Manifestation Wheel. I picked it up again a few weeks ago and wanted to share a few things that came up for me. Being detailed and business-like in most everything I do I found his book brought me to new places of deeper understanding. Alan’s ability to take the intuitive spirit side and bring together the proven science to roll out a step-by-step guide for manifesting is simple yet powerful. However, it is still important to understand that just treating the manifestation of your dreams like a business project, because you now have a checklist of steps to go through, doesn’t assure that you’ll achieve the success you desire.

There’s an incredibly important element that most people bypass — passion, your ‘why’ and being ‘in flow.’ Although the book discusses it and there are many other books that focus on this important element, what I want to emphasize is that it is crucial to your success in manifesting that you persist in creating a stream of passionate and emotional energy. The type of emotional energy that is created when you are ‘being’ that person you intend to become. That person who just landed that big account, who accomplished their financial goals, who successfully launched that non-profit — you get the idea. It is your ‘why.’ The big ‘why’ for the reason you have the goal in the first place. Feeling the energy of your having accomplished that already and living from that place actually uses the powerful Law of Attraction. Being ‘in flow’ means you are emanating that dynamic energy that draws from the universe the abundance of opportunities and produces people to be in the right place at the right time and provide just what you will need to create your success in accomplishing that goal.

The challenge is not to block. Blocking, by going with the ebb and flow of your emotions and being stuck in fear or in a place of wanting and lacking what you want, reverses the work already accomplished when you were ‘in flow.’ So to pray without ceasing is basically the same message here, to persist in your laser-like focus on your dreams — the end goal in mind. And to, without ceasing, create that continuous outward flow of positive emotion and energy that you know you will be feeling as if you’ve already accomplished that goal. You must be that person already emotionally and make the business decisions that person would make, taking the deliberate actions toward what you are creating. And because what you see in your current reality is not what you are intending to create, it is easy to get side tracked.

This is some of the most difficult personal work you can do to stay in laser focus to create what you intend. It takes courage to set yourself on a committed course of self development and face all the fears you have of failure of not reaching that goal, of being criticized, of being alone having set yourself apart from the crowd. You must have an entrepreneurial mindset, a millionaire mindset if you will. Be the leader, not the follower. Even if you’re in a career and not a home based entrepreneur like I am, having an entrepreneurial mindset will set you apart from the crowd and that alone can open doors and create opportunities you never had before.

There are many programs, books, audio sets, etc. available to assist one in learning more, but only a few quality educational curriculum that diligently assist you in becoming involved daily in the positive practices that will produce results. So be cautious and do your research. My blog is one of many focused on self growth and personal development with many resources to assist you in your development. Here’s to your success and staying ‘in flow’! — Janet the Planet

ARE YOU WILLING . . . TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES . . . TO OVERCOME OLD HABITS OF THOUGHT AND ACTION?

I was moved by many chapters of Dr. Wayne Dyer’s new book, Excuses Begone, which I finished reading a few weeks ago. There are many parts of which I’d like to comment on in the future. The day I finished the book, I was struck by how similar my experience of making a mid-life career change was to the experience Dr. Dyer wrote about when he made the decision to act in the movie The Shift. Prior to making his decision, he experienced running through the old habits and excuses that would have supported his decision to NOT do the project such as:

“It’ll be difficult. A risk. I’ve never acted before. Don’t take direction well. Like to do what I want, when I want. Not my nature to act. No one will help me. I’ll be hopelessly lost. Never done such a thing before. What if I look stupid? Too old to learn a new profession. Project is too big. I’m too busy with my existing schedule. I’m scared. Don’t want to be put in a position where I might look be, or even worse, fail.” I’m sure you can relate, can’t you?

Dr. Dyer believes that four criteria must exist in order for you to proceed when making the decision to let go of the familiar for the unknown. The that I could totally relate to was that the project or whatever you are facing be “Doable.” Even though Dr. Dyer didn’t have a clue as to how he’s master whatever skills were necessary to create the full-length movie, he knew it was “Do-able.” Even though he had all the excuses in the world as noted above, he knew that the end results would be a great experience for the viewers and for himself to expand and learn. He was able to ’stow’ as it called it his skepticism — he put aside all those excuses. He trusted that the project was “Doable” because many other people before him have done the same thing, been part of a movie, or created/produced one, acted in it, directed, etc. So it’s not that it was an impossible feat. Once he let go of those excuses and trusted in the talents and experience of those around him to guide him to learn and do what was needed of him, everything that he did need began to show up right on time. His excuses for not being involved disappeared once he let go.

He also knew that the project would fulfill the other 3 criteria: It Must Make Sense, Must Allow You To Feel Good, and It Must Be Aligned With The Callings of Your Soul.

When I finally faced how sick and truly disgusted and dissatisfied I was with my former career as a Financial Advisor and middle management trainer in that same industry, I sought out business models that I could work and run from my home. I was fed up enough to make a drastic change because I was no longer aligned with what made me feel good. In fact I was really having physical illness and neurological symptoms my situation was so very severe with toxic level stress. I wrote a story about it and recorded a video about this experience. The article is being released this week and the video appears on this blog.

Even though I faced the same long list of excuses that Dr. Dyer points out in the last section of his book, Excuses Begone, I knew that making the drastic change in my life would: A) be aligned with my heart and soul (not to mention my health), B) picking a business that allowed me to assist others would be a way of giving and paying it forward which would help me feel good about my work, C) it must be do-able – many people work from home in a home business opportunity, so it’s been done before; I would just have to learn how, and lastly D) it must make sense – all my basic needs would be fulfilled even if my new business were mildly successful, it’s been done before, I’ll have more flexibility in my schedule, time to heal, time to get my weight back down and get in shape, the list of why going into business for myself made sense was, in fact, very long.

But taking that leap, at least for some people, is not as easy to do as it was for me. I had faith. I had faith that the people affiliated with the business I eventually chose to be aligned with were of integrity. I could sense (even though I never met them face to face) thru our many conversations that they were genuine, real, and totally honest with me about the potential for my success. And, I believed in myself. I believed that I was capable of accomplishing anything I would set my mind to. (Okay, grammatically, I know I’m not supposed to send a sentence with “to”, but this is my blog, so I can do whatever I wish!) So, I took the leap and made the mid-life career change to a totally unrelated industry because it was aligned with my passions, totally. I “stowed” all the excuses away, because the potential end result was my brass ring and I wanted more than anything that brass ring. I deserved the brass ring! I deserved success.

For any of you considering making even a small career change or going into business for yourself, my desire for you is fantastic success in whatever you do. Life’s too short not to be happy. Life’s more than just barely providing for yourself and your family. If you believe you will succeed, YOU WILL! You have to believe it to see it – to make it happen. If you have passion for what change will bring about, you can make it a successful transition. You see, self-actualizing people — those that take matters into their own hands and make it happen — never use their minds to think about that which they don’t want to attract. They think and affirm only about what they do wish to attract:

My career/business transition will be successful.

I am deserving of success and great wealth and abundance in all areas of my life.

All the money needed to meet my goals will arrive on time.

I am disciplined in thoughts and affirmations.

I am disciplined with my body, food choices and exercise.

Today I will continuously contemplate myself as being surrounded by the conditions I wish to produce.

These are just a few of the affirmations I started out using myself. There are many more you can use that directly relate to you and your situation and especially those that are targeted to counter your old excuses. I’ll close with a quote from a former Commander in Chief of the allied armies in World War I, Ferdinand Foch, which reminds me of the basis of the Law of Attraction which most assuredly will bring you what you want like a magnet, which basis is PASSION — if you have continuous passion for your purpose, you will manifest it. Here’s the quote: “THE MOST POWERFUL WEAPON ON EARTH, IS THE HUMAN SOUL ON FIRE!”